The Phase/Tier System .. How to be YOU And meet Lots of WOMEN

I built the Phase/Tier System about 4 years ago with my best friend Jeff. I built it when I moved to San Luis Obispo and knew no one. I didn't get why I coudn't get girls and so I went on a path of trial and error until i came up with a system that allowed me to be me and Get girls. This has allowed me to meet allot more WOMEN and helped me understand and build stronger relationships with ALL my friends.

I bless you with the Phase system

There are 5 phases- Each Phase represent a friendship level. So for instance your best friend may be ranked Phase 4. Another example would be a stranger you just met on the streets. They would be ranked Phase 1 friend and you would treat them accordingly to the TIER 1 rules.

There are also 5 TIERS- I will continue to keep TIER capitalized in order to not mix up with phase. TIERS are the way you should speak to a Phase friend. So for instance if you have a Phase 1 friend you should speak to them in TIER 1. TIER represents how deep your conversation is about your life and things of importance to you. The rule is you should not speak in a way that is higher Phase then your Tier is.. What I mean is if they are a Phase 2 friend the max level of conversation depth should be TIER 2.. But a cool thing is you can always go back to lower level conversation with a higher phase friend. Example a Phase 5 friend you can talk to in Tier 1 or 2, 3- 4----5 so all 5 TIERS of conversation you can use. But not the opposite SO you could not talk to a Phase 1 friend in Tier 5 conversation. This would come across way to needy and allows you oportunity to get hurt very easy.

This article will only talk about Phase 1 and Tier 1. I do this because these 2 concepts are by far the most important one when it comes to meeting women and making new friends with anyone. Seeing how they are so important I wrote a crap load on each of them and I don’t want you to get over whelmed.


Phase 1- These are new strangers. At least 90 percent of people you meet on a day to day basis are Phase 1. These people will almost automatically be dead to you after you speak to them. You will never see them again and if they died tomorrow you would not have a clue.

TIER 1- You should speak to Phase 1 people with TIER 1 conversation. This talk is all about amusing yourself. Don’t give a damn what they think and talk to them about things you find funny. DO NOT TRY TO ENTERTAIN THEM ONLY ENTERTAIN YOURSELF. For instance don’t ask needy question or questions you don’t care to have answered. IF you do you are being untrue to yourself and will not enjoy their conversation. Your question should be about things you find funny. For instance Why Godzilla never had a penis or why Oregon Trail the video game was so hard to beat!!!! You will look forward to their responses and this makes you happy and puts them in a relaxed playful mood. If you ask such question as SO.... What do you like???? This will make you bored and before you know it you will become a much less attractive person and both parties will separate ways. Let me show you the power of this. So you have lots of guy friend’s right. WHY so many guy friends?? When you first met your guy friend you didn’t give a crap if they died tomorrow, you wanted nothing from this so you talked to them only in a way that entertains you... The reason is you don’t want sex or most men don’t need anything from other guys so we talk only in a way that would entertain us. We could give a crap if they like us or not. The results the other person sees you as a much more enjoyable person and they enjoy your company and you enjoy theirs! SO you talk to them in a way that was entertaining for you. And they did the same for you. You built a friendship on Tier 1 humor and now subconsciously you gave them access to become a higher Phase friend. SO why don’t we do this with women. Well we meet a new Girl so Phase 1 friend and we try to talk to her in a TIER 3 or 4 or even 5 conversations. We talk to her like this because we find her attractive and we put dependency on the outcome. We get in our heads and try to entertain her instead of our self. We are being untrue to our self by asking questions we don’t care to even talk about. What results is she feels weird and you are not being entertained. So the friendship never had a chance because you tried to treat her and talk to her as if she was a Higher Phase friend. This answers the age old question of why do guys and girls click so well when they drink liquor. When you’re drunk you don’t give a crap about what you say any more. You find yourself only entertaining yourself. This means when you talk to girls you ask illogical question which you find humorous and the girls respond with playful entertaining responses. This lead down a healthy route that allows for a high Phase friend. Now by no means do I advise drinking to meet people but you can begin to adopt the mindset of entertaining yourself without liquor.

So remember a Phase 1 friend should be talked to only in TIER 1 conversation. You do not give a damn what they think of you and you are just looking to entertain yourself. I stress TIER 1 talk so much because this is how your friendship was built. And for most of us we want to make more friendship and being a master of TIER 1 conversation will open your world to LOTS of new friends. . Take some time now to reflect on your own friendship and see if there is allot of illogical humor built in. With my friend’s south park cracks, jokes about bestiality (YES JUST JOKES my animals are safe ;)) Jokes about perversion are always things we bring up all the time. Are friendship is built on this humor and the great thing we can always go back to it.