Learning to tone it down

From what i am seeing i have to tone my energy down. Still bring enthusaism but literally slow things down. When i talk, dont rush to the end. Let pauses happen or i will be MR.entertainer. Dont try to control the conversation so much. LET Other people tell their stories. Rember its not what you say its the sub commonications. The eye contact, the smeling the enjoyment. To much talking is Mr. Enteraner man. Pauses in your talk and slow it down. In a way you almost want to add a style to your talking. So communicate like your their to inspire, to let people into your private world. Clark is a good example of this. Paues in his voice a tad bit of recervation yet curiously in his voice. In a way you are welcoming people to your party but making sure they are value givers back. .. You dont do this by talking quick or being loud at certain moments. Its pauses in your speaking. My brain computes much faster then most so its imporant for me to let things sink in to others. Story telling lots of pauses and talk normal speed but loud. Less words but keep emphasis.

For higher social inteligence people not as much nodding of the head. This looks needy and almost seking rapport. SO CHILL. Talk slower. DOnt be looking for where to take the conversation. Dont smile constally in the set. This gives the impresion that you are just happy tha tpeople are talking to you. The word chills means dont rush it. Just enjoy the present. SO main points slow voice, stop tring to control conversations, pauses in voice to let others talk and compute, speak with convictions, talks with CONVICTION "Means you belive it in your reality CLARK CRUSHES at this", Sub communication "the eye contact", the voice tone, making her chase u, dont look for reaction in your voice



Speak slower and more convicting. Do this by saying less but what you say is more imporant. Dont look for reactions in your talks.


Mark