Lets stop training and go EXPERIENCE !!!

Helloooooo

Whats up people!!! I have began to live by a new way of thinking when it comes to going out or even learning skills or even fitness. I don't see things as training any more but instead as experiences. I have found that when i view something as training i don't enjoy the experience as much and the focus is all on results instead of new experiences. I find that when i view things as training, i began to put a perfectionist mindset on myself and I miss out on times I could of enjoyed if i stooped focusing on the goal and just enjoyed the experience. Let me give you an example of what i mean by this. When i would go out to clubs, I viewed all interaction with others as traning instead of new experiences.. Allot of nights regardless of how well or not well I did I was disappointed in myself and really didn't enjoy people because i was more focused on my GOAL then on the experience. I didn't come out to enjoy people but instead to reach a GOAL that secretly i knew would take me years of painful grinding to achieve. The problem ive found with this mindset is that I thought that once all the painful training was done i would be happy because i had reached that GOAL. Well if you have ever studied martial arts, lifted weights, or even social dynamics you know that the path is never ending. You are always learning new things in your field and to belive their is a ending to your path is foolishess. When you view things as tranining, you dissalow your core man to truely belive that the vision of greantess you have formed in your head can be you. Instead you plan to reach a certain level and then walk away happy with some results. In a way you vision yourself as a poser that can leave someones elses art at any time. I have seen this allot in guys that study pick up. They make goals of getting so many hot girls and then finally their quest can come to an end. The goal was actually just an ego boost instead of a change in their coreman. I can speak on this because this use to be me. I would go out 3 nights a weekto train with the ulimate goal in mind. Truthfully I didn't believe to my core that i was good with women i just belived i could manpulate them into beliveing i was. My problem was simple i was looking for a quick fix because i didnt enjoy my journey since it had all these goals that i could never meet with the mindset i had! So i saw pick up as a quick fix with the intentions of boucing out as soon as i recieved a certain level of validation. There was 2 problems in my particular scenario. For one i viewed going out as pick up instead of just social dynamic (but this is not the article to get into that) 2) I hated everything to do with pickup since my coreman new i was being fake with people and that this was not me. This goal mindset disallowed me to belive this journey could continue my entire life because deep down i belived this would just be another stage of life that i would eventually give up on. When i let go of the traning and just saw going as what it truely was an experience true enjoyment began to come my way. This new mindset has allowed me to love going out and my social skills are growing by leaps. Now as imporant as it is to see things as new experiences do not use this mindset to become lazy!!! but instead as a new way to think So to sum this up lets began to see things for what they truly are new experiences and I firmly believe through seeing thing as experiences enjoyment will come and we will adopt these things as part of our life style instead of a quick fix program.

Cheers to Glorious Times
Johnny Shine